— Lisa Crump
“Why are you getting so offended?” That is the question that you normally hear after someone criticizes you, intentionally or not.
Some of us have the power to brush off criticism and not break stride while doing it, while the majority will let it haunt us for days, months, and even years. In most instances, sweating the small stuff can hold us captive in both our spirit and our minds.
Let’s face it: you can’t effectively grasp what God has coming for you in 2013 if you’re holding on to what somebody “said” to you or about you in 2009. Holding words that came from someone’s mouth in your heart will keep you stagnant.
After consistently getting criticized and taking the offense to heart, we get into the mindset of being constantly pleasing to other people. The enemy uses your fear of offending to shift your focus from God’s purpose to what other people think God’s purpose for you is.
When you are working purposefully for the honor and glory of God there will be people placed strategically in your life solely to shake your confidence. The enemy gets pure joy from your insecurities. Take criticism as a reminder that you must be doing something right.
Be mindful of whom your offenders are and where the criticism is actually coming from. Does your critical audience even know you well enough to form a real opinion of you? If not, disregard their negativity immediately. Is the offender in a worse situation than yourself? ENOUGH SAID!
Is the criticism coming from family? Distance yourself. Does it feel like your friends are using you for target practice? Simply remove them. A wise person once said “My life is my business and God is my business partner.” Adapt this mantra and mentality when dealing with the critical views of man.
As single mothers, we have a bad habit of letting criticism and other people’s viewpoints mold our perception of ourselves. Unfortunately, society already has a negative view of us women who are forced to raise our children alone. Being a single mother who is walking in God’s will, you have to learn to effectively turn a deaf ear to society’s perception as well as the opinion of those around you.
Please note: to whom much is given, much is tested. When your life is shifting and you’re on the brink of a breakthrough, there will be criticism, backlash, and slander. If you carry it with you “they” win, if you let it go YOU win. After all, they talked about and criticized Jesus right?