— Christopher Lawrence
The presence or absence of a father will affect one’s life more than human logic can understand.
Displays in personal development and expectations, relationships, and other factors will suggest how much a father has invested in his offspring(s).
My dad. I can say a lot of things about him. He’s a man of God first and foremost, who makes it his duty to speak and encourage life in his children, especially me as his only son. I never got the “speaking life” aspect of Christianity because life is messed up. Even good people go through the worst, so it seems pointless to even continue sometimes.
I admit I can be a handful. I’ve wasted opportunities and failed many times. I’ve felt like a disappointment to my father and family, even though it was never their fault. I condemned myself constantly and at times pushed him away. He’d say the words “I’m your biggest fan…there’s greatness in you…” and it still wouldn’t click. But he kept on speaking, motivating, and pushing me. He still does.
He teaches me about:
Love – Seeing my parents are still married and loving each other
Music – He sings and plays piano
Responsibility and Money – The hard lessons to learn, but worth the experiences
Women – How to treat them the way they should be and how to work around their genetic defaults *it’s all love ladies, but admit it*
And most importantly, about God and what it is to know Him.
I’m doing my best to be the man he’d be proud of. If it wasn’t for his sacrifices, prayers, tears, discipline, and time, only God knows where I’d be. It could’ve been worse, much worse!
Next to God himself, he’s the greatest man I know. I love him very much (though I don’t tell him often) and I pray he gets many more years to do what he does best. I pray I can be as legendary as he is whenever I walk the path of fatherhood. Thank you “Big C.”
There are so many cases of the “fatherless” these days and it’s becoming quite an epidemic.
Low self esteem, high suicide and murder rates, school drop-outs, broken homes, and men having babies with no intent of support are just a few of the side effects. All as a result of the man not being man enough to do his God given responsibilities.
And no, this is not a hit against single mothers because I believe it takes a true woman’s strength to do what you do, which I applaud.
The truth remains that it takes a man to do a man’s job.
Be responsible. Take action. Love not only by saying so, but by doing so. Provide for, serve and protect your family at all (legitimate) costs. I see too many boys claiming to be fathers these days. Somehow they have money and time for other things, yet when it comes to their children even the CIA couldn’t find them.
A life, with or without, a father can still be a success story. There is one Heavenly Father who is always there for us. The main focus here is that men, BE a father to your children and household. Their lives depend on it.
Better yet, you don’t need to question why you should, or how you should it. Just DO it.
Happy Father’s Day Calvin R. Lawrence! And to all the fathers, uncles, role models, and the women who are both mom and dad to their children.