—- Niya Tanielle
It’s hard for me not to give my opinion. I mean, it’s automatic for me to give my two cents about things that don’t concern me. Things like, “She’s so stupid! Why would she take him back?” or “Is he crazy?”
I would’ve….” Growing up, my southern grandmother, aka Bigmama, would say to me, “Just keep livin’ girl”, every time I made a smart comment about someone else’s choices. As I have kept living I have learned that the decisions we make in life aren’t so cut and dry as I initially thought.
I realize that I’ve had friends not confide in me because they knew I would have a judgmental attitude and maybe follow up with a lecture. As I work on making my new apartment a home, I question my own choices about life and love.
I’ve made decisions that I said I would never make and if the same decision was made by a friend, I would probably question their sanity.
So, I have learned to keep my mouth shut! I can’t comment on anyone’s choices of spouse, where their money is spent, or if they decide on a weave or no weave.
The most I can do is pray for people as I pray for myself, and plant the seed for them to reconsider their choices. Life is something else! The more I keep living, the more God humbles me. Before you say, “I’d never….”, remember my Bigmama’s words and just keep livin’.
