A few years ago, back in those college days, a few of my girlfriends and I decided that since none of us had dates, that we would get together at my house on the dreaded Valentine’s Day. So we grabbed a couple of pizzas and the Waiting to Exhale DVD and commenced to celebrating V-day. Our celebration included sad music, male bashing, reminiscing about heartbreaks, and ended in plenty of sorrowful tears. If you are single and planning on engaging in ?conduct? such as that for Valentine’s Day, stop dead in your tracks. Self-pity is awful in and of itself, but actually sitting around with your girlfriends and pitying each other is even more dreadful.
Don’t get me wrong, it is wonderful to have a significant other when Valentine’s Day rolls around, but it is also not the end of the world if you don’t. First and foremost, bask in the love that God has for you. Romans 5:8 states, “But God shows and clearly proves his love for us by the fact that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” His love is truly remarkable and unconditional. Know that just because the one that is meant for you might not be in plain sight, God still has a the plan. Not only is He preparing you for your soul mate, he is preparing your soul mate for you as well.
So instead of wallowing in self-pity on this Valentine’s Day, rejoice in your victories through the love of God and the victories that are on the way. For Valentine’s Day one year, my son and I went out for lunch and to the movies and we had a blast. That year, he was my Valentine. There is nothing wrong with getting the family together on this day to spend quality time just loving on each other. Make plans to do something special to show your love for them. Relish in the love that you have for your children and the unconditional love that they have for you. Never forget that you mean the world to them and no one will ever take your place in their eyes.
Let the love from your children warm your spirit in any time of loneliness, not just on Valentine’s Day, but every day of the year. This Valentine’s Day, instead of being sorrowful, I urge you to self-indulge. Spoil yourself rotten. Spend a day at the spa, engage in some retail therapy, or just lounge about and meditate. You are raising your children alone, working, and staying beautiful all at the same time. Therefore, you deserve to reward yourself for a job well done. Before God can bless you with that special someone, you must love yourself first.
There is nothing wrong with taking some time out to pamper yourself. And what better day to do it than Valentine’s Day? If you choose to be accompanied by girlfriends on this day, celebrate accomplishments and the friendships you have found within one another, but make sure to leave the self-pity at home. If you choose to spend this special day with family and loved ones, in the midst of relishing in their love make sure to make a special effort to show them love as well.
I love this article! True. There is no need to have a pity party. If you must party, why not throw a PRAISE party instead (include those kids). The scriptures say, Where two or three are gather together in my name, touching and agreeing on the same thing, I’ll ( Jesus)be in the mist of them. Lisa, your article is so relevant.